The Free Three

Your first step to Freedom: Vent yourself!
Vent the tough and great parts of your day, week, month, etc. Feel free to be extremely honest as judgment or criticism is not allowed on this site; please read the Hippy Love; No Judge Policy located below.   By being honest and open, other moms see that they are not insane or complete failures for doing or feeling the same, because I am 100% positive that someone else can relate to your koo-koo crazy life. Pretend you are talking to your best friend. What woman doesn’t like to vent? Venting is a very natural part of who we are and has an extreme healing power when used to help improve ourselves.   At the same time, we can get pretty carried away when we vent the bad stuff so give yourself a “Vent Yourself” time limit.  If you had a complete 100% great day then we are all jealous but can’t wait to read about it!

Your second step to Freedom:  Help yourself
Come up with at least one way you could have or still can change what happened in your day, week, month, etc.   Ask yourself, “What could I have done differently?”.  No matter what it might be (i.e. I could have spoken to my child in a calm and firm voice when he/she poured her milk on the floor instead of yelling like a freak of nature!, I could have eaten healthier). It does not have to relate to mommyhood. Whatever goes!  Reflection can help us come up with new ways to think about and respond to situations.  Just like our kids, we can grow everday too!  

Third and last step to Freedom:  Thank yourself
This is the best part of the The Free Three. We tend to dwell on the negatives in our lives instead of the positives. Write at least 3 things you are thankful for today or are thankful for in general. If you can write more, then go crazy, but try hard for a minimum of 3, even if you feel like cursing the Gods for unloading the wrath of this day upon you.  They can be simple (i.e. I took a nap, my baby’s laugh, etc.) or more complex (I waited patiently for my hubbie to take out the garbage, he actually and eventually did, Hooray!  I had an orgasm today!) I have found that writing these positive things about our lives each day can make a HUGE difference in how we view the world the next day. We tend to notice the positive the more we take note of the positive. I hope that make sense.  If you have time for nothing else, writing your “Thank yourself” each day can put a smile on your face and can make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.  This feeling can rival a nice glass of wine at the end of any day, which is exactly the “Free” feeling I know we can all attain at the end of even the roughest of days.

Freethemoms.com “hippy love/ no judge” policy:  While reading other mom’s entries, remember that every mom, family, child, and life is completely different.  What is right for you might not be right for someone else.  I want all moms to feel comfortable and free to vent within the cyber “walls” of this site.  No judgment or criticism is allowed.  Simply read for the knowledge that you are not the only mom confused, exhausted, feeling like a failure, depressed, discouraged, crazy, etc..  We, as moms and woman, need to practice the art of acceptance and open-mindedness and leave the shit and shit talking to the teens and tweens who don’t know any better yet.  This is practicing your hippy love side and leaving your shit side at the “anywhere but in this site”.  Although you are free to comment on other moms’ posts, if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it!  So give a big sigh of relief, “aaaaaaaahhhh” in knowing that you’ve got nothing but love here.

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