About Me

My name is Katie and I live in Southern California, specifically “The OC” as it has come to be known. I am lucky enough to be a stay at home mom for my chubby little man, Tucker Butte. He just turned 1!  In order for me to stay home, my husband and I have definitely had to stretch the financial limits and watch our home ownership dreams go down the toilet. Before I pushed Tucker out of my vagina and into this world, I was a 2^nd grade teacher.  I have been married for almost 4 years to an awesome man who I met while we were both Snowboard Instructors in Crested Butte, Colorado.  I then dragged him straight to Cali, land of the plastic perfect 10 women, of whom I am not, but he doesn’t seem to notice.  I highly recommend finding a good Midwestern man.  A good husband is priceless.

I decided the world of moms needed a website like this one when I realized, upon becoming a mom, that I felt judged by EVERYONE as to my mommying capabilities and choices.  “Do you think he should be sleeping in his swing?  I think his swaddle makes him feel trapped.  Babies his age shouldn’t be taking so many naps.”  Arrrrrrrggghhh!  It didn’t even take a word from some people for me to feel judged.  Call me insecure but from talking to other moms, they feel the same way!  These judgments, whether valid or not, make us think we are doing something wrong or completely failing as moms.  When I joined a Mommy and Me group in my area (very low key, just some moms and babies in a room with a few toys) I realized, through talking to them, that every child is completely different, every mom is completely different, and none of what any of us do should be looked at as “the wrong way to do it”.  Obviously this does not extend to abuse or neglect, which should be judged and reported.  My Mommy and Me group very much keeps me sane and feeling free and I look forward to it every Friday.  As I realized that not all moms probably have a Mommy and Me group, or friends nearby, or family nearby (sometimes family is anything but freeing) I decided that moms needed a place where they could go to feel and see that they are not alone and no ones perfect.  I came up with The Free Three because it is something I often do to reflect on my day and it almost always helps me see the silver lining of life, keeps me balanced, solves some issues, and feel free to be whoever I want to be, even if that person is not and will not ever be Supermom!  

Freethemoms.com “hippy love/ no judge” policy:  While reading other mom’s entries, remember that every mom, family, child, and life is completely different.  What is right for you might not be right for someone else.  I want all moms to feel comfortable and free to vent within the cyber “walls” of this site.  No judgment or criticism is allowed.  Simply read for the knowledge that you are not the only mom confused, exhausted, feeling like a failure, depressed, discouraged, crazy, etc..  We, as moms and woman, need to practice the art of acceptance and open-mindedness and leave the shit and shit talking to the teens and tweens who don’t know any better yet.  This is practicing your hippy love side and leaving your shit side at the “anywhere but in this site”.  Although you are free to comment on other moms’ posts, if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it!  So give a big sigh of relief, “aaaaaaaahhhh” in knowing that you’ve got nothing but love here